I first met Fliss at the end of 2014. At this stage my confidence was on the floor and I felt that there may be no way forward for my youngster and myself.
Everything I asked him to do, he fought me on. I couldn’t even lead him away from the other horses and onto the yard for his tea as his anxiety levels were so high, he wouldn’t go into a stable and if he did he would flatten you to get back out or crush you against the wall. If I attempted to pick out his feet he would drop to the ground or knock you over leaping sideways.
I had already invested hundreds of pounds elsewhere into seeking help and stressed that I needed help with my confidence in handling him as well as his issues, unfortunately when he returned he was so much worse than he was when I sent him. So at this point I didn’t hold out much hope for a solution.
Fliss arrived with a lovely warming smile even though it was pouring with rain and set to work by asking me what my issues were and what I wanted to achieve from her visits.
I asked her to do the handling as I didn’t feel I was capable of sorting any of our issues so we did a few bits and bobs and she saw his behaviours.
She very quickly identified Cookies need to be close to his handler and suggested some exercises to work on re building our bond and connection and how to release the tension from his braced and defensive body. She gave me some coping techniques for any sharp and unpleasant behaviour that even I could do and she told me she believed in me and that anything was possible.
So the week’s passed and I worked on basic handling, slowing everything down and our bond. Very quickly it became apparent that huge progress was occurring and another side to my boy was appearing. A happy, gentle and confident boy who actually wanted to be with me. The progress became daily and all my fears started to slip away and I knew with fliss’ help I would never look back again.
I continued to work with Fliss and alone in the week until I reached any place of total confidence, I then dared to dream bigger. Maybe I could work towards getting on him and starting the back process. Maybe I could take him out to a clinic.
Needless to say I achieved both and the feeling euphoria when it was a total success is indescribable.
Fliss saved my boy, and for that I’m eternally greatful.
If I hadn’t have found her when I did I simply don’t know what his future would have been.
She gave me the key to progression and encouraged me to make the journey with the belief that any things possible and to do what feels good. There was no doubt in her mind that it would be a success.
This has been as much of a journey of discovery and self belief for me as it has Cookie. We are so glad to have found you